Birthday Party Etiquette part one

In recent weeks, a number of parents have asked my opinion and ideas about children’s birthday parties. Their concerns ranged from size and cost, to leaving people out, and proper etiquette for RSVPing. As I gathered my thoughts, it turns out that I have quite a few! First and foremost, it should be about the child whose birthday it is and age appropriate. If you want to have an adult party or to invite all of your friends and their children, find another occasion to do so. Second, don’t let the celebrant get lost in the celebration! Birthday parties have taken on a life of their own over the years and, at times become the type of festivities that used to be reserved for greater life milestones like Quinceañera, Bar and Bat Mitzvah, Confirmations and Sweet Sixteen parties. Leave some things for your child to anticipate and experience when they… [Read more]

Week of April 24

Celebrating the Arts Here at Shorecrest, the arts play a prominent role in the children’s everyday experiences. Creativity and imagination are encouraged whether the students are working with art media, telling stories, building with blocks, making music, or reusing recyclables. This week, however, is always extra special as the arts are celebrated across our campus in a big way. We began the week at Monday’s town meeting with a performance by our own music teachers, Ms. Kemp (from The Experiential School ) and Mr. Mitchell (Lower School), who are both concert musicians. Every student from three-years-old through grade eight has a piece of their visual artwork on display, and the Upper School has a juried art show you can visit in the SAC and Janet Root Theatre Lobby. The musical performances on Friday of Alpha through fourth grade celebrate music from many cultures, and the family picnic that follows brings our Experiential School and… [Read more]


Here is an additional point from “Untying the Apronstrings” (The Experiential School blog, April 6) that I feel worthy of additional consideration. It pertains to allowing, or subconsciously not allowing, children to be responsible or to understand cause and effect – micromanaging. Though typically heard as a term with negative connotations that relates to business, micromanaging is equally destructive as a parenting style. A micromanaging parent constantly looks “over their child’s shoulder,” telling them what to do and how to do it, at every step of the way, instead of allowing them space and autonomy to do and figure out things for themselves and to, sometimes, make mistakes. As parents, we micromanage thinking we are being helpful, or because we are unable to give up the reins of control. This inability to let go, however, has long lasting negative effects. It de-motivates, rather than motivates our children to be independent… [Read more]